One of the most challenging areas to start changing our boundaries is within our families, especially between parents and children. Loaning borrowed items to others without permissionĭamaging a possession and refusing to pay for it - page 73Ĭalling multiple times in a row for non-emergenciesĮxpecting someone to drop everything in order to provide helpĬalling or sending text messages late when the recipient is sleepingĪsking someone to stay late at work for no additional pay - page 74 Using things longer than the agreed-on time frame Telling people how to feel, such as “You shouldn’t be sad about that” - page 73 Pushing someone to share information they aren’t comfortable sharing Sharing inappropriate emotional information with children Telling children about problems they aren’t emotionally capable of handling - page 71 Ridiculing someone for their views and thoughtsĭismissing someone because of disagreementsĭemeaning a child’s mother/father in front of a child Holding someone’s hand when they’ve made it clear they are uncomfortable with public displays of affection - page 68Ĭomments about someone’s sexual appearanceĬalling someone names for their beliefs or opinions If you think about it, the root of self-care is setting boundaries: it’s saying no to something in order to say yes to your own emotional, physical and mental well-being.” - page 6 “You’ll have more energy for others if you apply it to yourself first. This was a revelation to me.įor example, if we can’t find five minutes to eat a healthy meal or ten minutes to take a walk, but we spend hours and hours every week serving the needs of others this is a red flag that we have issues with boundaries.īy recognising and enforcing boundaries, it is the life equivalent of putting our own oxygen mask on first when the plane is crashing.

Learning when to say no and when to say yes is also an essential part of feeling comfortable when interacting with others.” - page 5īoundaries keep us well.

Expectations in relationships help you stay mentally and emotionally well. “Boundaries are expectations and needs that help you feel safe and comfortable in your relationships. Here is Nedra’s definition of Boundaries: We cannot honour ourselves, our needs or others’ needs if we cannot speak those things aloud.

People can’t read our minds, and boundaries really come back to communication.

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